Naive

Every time I think I am all grown up and "street smart" I realize I am still naive.
When we adopted the kids I was naive then thinking that I would be able to go and get services whether it be medical or therapy and be able to  say they are special needs kids and I need help.I soon learned that I needed to jump hoops in order to get to what I sought. I have gotten better at understanding and playing the game ,although I still have issues with putting our kids second but at the moment it is a fight to get funding where it is needed.
I new lesson of my naiveness was I assumed I could turn to any church and we would be greeted with open arms and because we are all God's children that our family we be accepted and not that I was hoping for special treatment I had hoped for understanding.Instead and this isn't about religion everyone is entitled to their own opinion and freedom of choice to worship as they wish.But we were told straight to our face that we didn't love God enough and if we were better Christians God would lift the inflictions off the kids.It is our fault that these two kids struggle because we don't love God enough and we don't live like we are suppose too.
It just goes to show me that I am still naive if I didn't realize like anything else you need to research and make sure something is a good fit.