Loss

I was reading a book today about the concept on loss and the many levels it effects.
It is easy to understand loss when you look at it as the death of someone  but there is also another level of loss.
I was thinking about the loss of normalcy one feels living with someone with a mental illness.
When Zach is in his rage zone he is the most angry person his eyes turn black and he truly out of control.There is a sense of loss I feel for him. he will never be rid of his mental illness ,he will always be tied to meds and therapists.

Things like organized sports and school plays don't work for him.At the moment he hates large crowds and at times seem as though being home is enough.
There is a whole loss of "normalcy" not only not for him but for his whole family.Holiday meals ,birthday parties are too much for him.
A psychologist told me that kids like him know they don't fit in the "norm" and it is the one thing they crave is to be part of the norm.